Warning to female tourists thinking of marrying Egyptians

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Warning to female tourists thinking of marrying Egyptians

A word of caution for female tourists visiting Egypt: be careful of the many of the men working in tourist areas in Egypt.

Although the vast majority of Egyptians have a high sense of honor and good conduct, it seems that tourist areas seem to attract a relatively high concentration of people with lax morals, who would exploit tourists in many ways. It can manifest itself as persistent aggressive begging, peddling cheap goods, charging 10X the normal prices for services and goods, and what this article focuses on: exploiting female tourists.

Looking at the bulk of the comments on my notes on compulsory army service in egypt they are mostly from non-Egyptian women who married (or intend to marry) an Egyptian man, and army service has become an obstacle.

So, once you here the word "habibti" (meaning "my love" in Arabic), and before you call him "Habibi", let alone go down the marriage route, read on below for more information.

The exploitation happens in many forms, but is normally centered around one of the following:

Easy and Free Sex

Many tourists come from countries where sex is more freely practiced outside of marriage. Youn g Egyptian men working in tourist areas who
are not married see this as an opportunity, and are met with acceptance from the female tourists.

A source for Money

Many Egyptian men who practice this scam view the "wealthy" tourist as a source of income. They keep asking their "girl friend", "fiance" or "wife" for money for various excuses, just like a professional scammer would play a confidence game on a victim.

An Opporunity for Immigration

Some of those men want to get out of Egypt, and see their marriage as a way to gain residence and citizenship in a Western country. The economy in Egypt has been stagnant for decades, and poverty, lack of opportunity and the high cost of marriage lures some youth to trying these tricks.

Why it works?

There are several factors that work in favor of the Egyptian scammers here.

One factor that helps is that most Egyptian men look desirable to Western women, being of darker complexion than their compatriots. The fact that the foreigners are white blonds work in making the women attractive and desirable for Egyptian men.

Another factor is that the woman is coming to the tourist place to have a good time. It may be a break from stressful work or study, or perhaps a past relationship. This helps blind her to what is happening.

Yet another factor is the cultural differences which also create temporary blindness.

Moreover, those workers being away from their village or city of origin, where they would be observed by their extended family and friends tend to make it easier for them to engage in sexual relationships and scams without being scrutinized by acquaintenaces, and no stigma is attached to these behaviors.

Finally, the scammers have perfected their techniques over the years, and are very skillful at what they do.

Blacklists

Blacklists have emerged on the internet, to warn potential female tourists from known exploiters. These have all the faults of user contributed content on the internet in that they can be innacurate, biased, or even rigged by rivals or pranksters. However, in the absence of any other information, they can be useful, provided they are taken with a good deal of skepticism and research and common sense applied.

Happens everywhere, not only Egypt

Before someone gets the impression that Egypt is a cesspool, and Egyptians are crooks, let me say it is neither.

The problem above is not limited to Egypt by any means. Any country where tourists come in to spend money has its share of exploiters. The above black lists have a Turkish one, and a Tunisian one, and there are lots of stories about French, Italian and Spanish men exploiting women tourists as well.

Of course, there is also the Russian bride fraud targeting well to do men in the West.

So, the problem is universal, although this article focuses on female tourists to Egypt.

Final Thoughts

There are many non-Egyptian women married to Egyptian men happily, so over-generalizing from the cases mentioned, or from workers at tourist resort is wrong. Chances are you will be happy with an Egyptian as a husband if you met him in a more natural settings, e.g. while studying or working, and getting to meet his family as well.

The "artificial" environment in resorts, being on holiday, and surrounded by some scammers lend itself to the disasters described.

So, beware ... 

Further Reading

Omg.. my boyfriend is

Omg.. my boyfriend is egyptian too.. and he still in army service.iam waitin g for him to finish on march to visit. And meet him .. we hve a year already tht we r tlkin trhu webcam..he is so nice.I hope this relationship keep on so..

reply about marraige

youre right the egyptions are polite,but theyre very manipulative,and very dishonest i am married to one,one i thought was shy religious and honest,turns out he has had many internet affairs since i married him,and so much more,what u see isnt what you get with them.

I agree with you

I agree with you totally....Most Egyptian men are more laid back and have great moral standards...I married my Egyptian husband 2 years ago and have known him since 2008. He treats me like a Queen and is amazing to my children...

??? I've never heard a "woman

??? I've never heard a "woman of the west" refer to anyone of darker skin in this way. What a horrible thing to say. I personally think that darker skin is beautiful and I'm very attracted to it. And I know many of my friends are the same.

Response to disgusting comment

I don't know if the base individual who wrote of people with darker skin in a derogatory manner will ever read this reply, however I must write it. Firstly, you are one, one of many, so don't assume you present the dominant view of all Western women. Secondly, you should be ashamed of yourself and perhaps come to the realisation that it is people such as yourself; derogatory, prejudicial and racist people, who create all the toxic rubbish in the world. You should be ashamed of yourself, to have the audacity to write such a thing is just a display of how truly backward and unhappy you must be. RACE IS PURELY A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT, that means it is a false reality. There are beautiful and ugly men everywhere. I believe the only person who should be labelled with the term you used, is yourself. Absolute disgusting scum.

Very well said!! I couldn't

Very well said!! I couldn't agree more x

Bogey Alex

Buon giorno
sono stata vittima di una brutta storia, ma fino ad oggi avevo deciso di non pubblicarla, ma negli ultimi giorni sono venuta a conoscenza che l'uomo che ha fatto del male a me lo sta facendo anche ad altre donne, perchiò ho deciso di denunciarlo. 2 anni fa sono stata in egitto ed ho conosciuto un ragazzo sembrava timido, educato e molto riservato. Anche l'approccio che ha avuto con me è stato molto discreto, mi ha raccontato di essere stato sposato in passato con una tedesca che era pazza. MI ha raccontato che quando mi ha conosciuto era da 1 anno che non aveva relazioni. Mi ha sposata con un regolare contratto di matrimonio (non orfi) ma mi ha detto che non potevamo vivere insieme perchè aveva problemi con la mamma malata.
Mi ha detto che non poteva vivere con me in italia perchè non aveva fatto il militare. Nell'anno in cui siamo stati sposati mi ha chiesto molti regali e qualche volta soldi ma sempre cose non vistose o esagerate, perciò non ho mai avuto problemi a regalargliele sembrava una richiesta innocente. Sono venuta a sapere che mentre era sposato con me, aveva anche altre 2 mogli europee e relazioni temporanee con altre turiste. A tutte aveva raccontato che le altre erano pazze e che non c'era niente di vero, ma da un controllo che ho fatto presso le autorità egiziane ho trovato che era stato denunciato molte volte e che gli altri matrimoni erano veri.
L'ho lasciato all'istante ma mi ha portato via (oltre alla fiducia nel prossimo) 2000 euro, 1 notebook e molti vestiti firmati.
Ho deciso di segnalarlo non con il suo vero nome, SOLAMENTE PERCHE' E' VIETATO, ma sul suo profilo Facebook si chiama BOGEY ALEX, è del Cairo e lavora per la red sea accademy.

Hunting Foreign Women For Income/Easy Money

I was only married 1 year and 3 months when my lovely Egyptian Man said " Sign a paper that gives me half of your property, or Ill KILL YOU!!!" I realized I didnt know this guy at all...the first year we were happy but It is true, I paid for all. when i tried to get him to work, we started getting bad with me...the police dont help...in the end they try to scare me to leave my property so they can take it as no one will dispute the issue. See my blog...MY Arabian Days and Nights....for helpful info. Best thing I can advise is to get a signed document from ANY man you think to marry that says He will be responsible to pay for ALL regular living needs and that he has no right to any of your property, now or in the future, even if you die. and keep THAT with a friend or lawyer. My hubby/love stole all my documents, gold and tried to steal my truck....ALWAYS get papers from a lawyer and keep copies everywhere!!!!!!!! Hebajoan at gmail
I Live in an Oasis in the Western Desert of Egypt and it is true, all the guys working in Tourism/Safari want out of Egypt and who can blame them...but to USE a woman and then steal her..this is not ARAB, EGYPTIAN or something any REAL MAN would do....RULE #1 NEVER give a man MONEY!
See my Google Blog, My Arabian Days and Nights.

Well, there's always going to

Well, there's always going to be the exception, but if you look at these places, you'll notice the women are double or triple the age of the boys they are chasing. Miscegenation is not the norm. I think it accounts for only 5% of all unions in North America, and most of them are between 2 different groups of non-Whites. You can just imagine how the typical westerner would view some old western women (or man) chasing after poor foreign black boys (or girls) young enough to be their grandsons/granddaughters. Just imagine if these women (or men) actually tried that in a western country!

Age is only the partial problem

There are certainly cases where older women go to these resorts to have sex in exchange for money, since they are no longer desirable. Some of those men also "justify" their actions (getting money, getting
immigration) by the fact that they are providing a "service" for these
older women.

But there are also many cases where women in their 20s and 30s have had these relationships, and even have children.

So "old undersirable and sex hungry" women explains some of that phenomenon, but not all of it.

Just read the links.