Warning to female tourists thinking of marrying Egyptians

A word of caution for female tourists visiting Egypt: be careful of the many of the men working in tourist areas in Egypt.

Although the vast majority of Egyptians have a high sense of honor and good conduct, it seems that tourist areas seem to attract a relatively high concentration of people with lax morals, who would exploit tourists in many ways. It can manifest itself as persistent aggressive begging, peddling cheap goods, charging 10X the normal prices for services and goods, and what this article focuses on: exploiting female tourists.

Looking at the bulk of the comments on my notes on compulsory army service in egypt they are mostly from non-Egyptian women who married (or intend to marry) an Egyptian man, and army service has become an obstacle.

So, once you here the word "habibti" (meaning "my love" in Arabic), and before you call him "Habibi", let alone go down the marriage route, read on below for more information.

The exploitation happens in many forms, but is normally centered around one of the following:

Easy and Free Sex

Many tourists come from countries where sex is more freely practiced outside of marriage. Youn g Egyptian men working in tourist areas who
are not married see this as an opportunity, and are met with acceptance from the female tourists.

A source for Money

Many Egyptian men who practice this scam view the "wealthy" tourist as a source of income. They keep asking their "girl friend", "fiance" or "wife" for money for various excuses, just like a professional scammer would play a confidence game on a victim.

An Opporunity for Immigration

Some of those men want to get out of Egypt, and see their marriage as a way to gain residence and citizenship in a Western country. The economy in Egypt has been stagnant for decades, and poverty, lack of opportunity and the high cost of marriage lures some youth to trying these tricks.

Why it works?

There are several factors that work in favor of the Egyptian scammers here.

One factor that helps is that most Egyptian men look desirable to Western women, being of darker complexion than their compatriots. The fact that the foreigners are white blonds work in making the women attractive and desirable for Egyptian men.

Another factor is that the woman is coming to the tourist place to have a good time. It may be a break from stressful work or study, or perhaps a past relationship. This helps blind her to what is happening.

Yet another factor is the cultural differences which also create temporary blindness.

Moreover, those workers being away from their village or city of origin, where they would be observed by their extended family and friends tend to make it easier for them to engage in sexual relationships and scams without being scrutinized by acquaintenaces, and no stigma is attached to these behaviors.

Finally, the scammers have perfected their techniques over the years, and are very skillful at what they do.

Blacklists

Blacklists have emerged on the internet, to warn potential female tourists from known exploiters. These have all the faults of user contributed content on the internet in that they can be innacurate, biased, or even rigged by rivals or pranksters. However, in the absence of any other information, they can be useful, provided they are taken with a good deal of skepticism and research and common sense applied.

Happens everywhere, not only Egypt

Before someone gets the impression that Egypt is a cesspool, and Egyptians are crooks, let me say it is neither.

The problem above is not limited to Egypt by any means. Any country where tourists come in to spend money has its share of exploiters. The above black lists have a Turkish one, and a Tunisian one, and there are lots of stories about French, Italian and Spanish men exploiting women tourists as well.

Of course, there is also the Russian bride fraud targeting well to do men in the West.

So, the problem is universal, although this article focuses on female tourists to Egypt.

Final Thoughts

There are many non-Egyptian women married to Egyptian men happily, so over-generalizing from the cases mentioned, or from workers at tourist resort is wrong. Chances are you will be happy with an Egyptian as a husband if you met him in a more natural settings, e.g. while studying or working, and getting to meet his family as well.

The "artificial" environment in resorts, being on holiday, and surrounded by some scammers lend itself to the disasters described.

So, beware ... 

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Comments

reply To Hani.

No thanks Hani, if others read your remarks I think you will soon be out of business.

Claire. Manchester, UK.

For all of those out there

Dear mr Hany ,
U r such an asshole not just to Egyptians but to man kmd in general
U sound so cheap going for bread crumbs
Missin the whole cake ,did u even have any education????
I get paid 1500 pounds a month in Egypt but in England I used to get paid around 1700 sterlings!!!
Al hamdu lillah
I'm married to a german ,nd it's not cheap to marry a non Egyptian
In Islam u must still pay ur wife the following:
Mahr(money for her as a gift)
Shabkaa(gold or silver gift or in general jewelary)
And u must provide a place for her
That money u made is haram it ame from zina ,how cd u ever do somefin like that for money?????
U r a prostitute Hany a man whore!!?!!?
I'm ashamed we r from the same country

about Hani

I have reed this page with horror, thank you Khalid for saying this to Hani, we arnt all alike, I respect English and all eropean peoples, they come for holiday and give us good living here in Luxor. All ladys please, please keep coming, we are not all like this Hani, and I think maybe no, he dont tell his family what he do.

Girgis, Luxor.

Hani & those like him.

I wrote before and live half the year in Luxor, I read what Girgis said, he is right not all men are like Hani, I know him I think, he hangs around the disco in Luxor and to be honest when I have been there, it seems as though some women go there especially to find these men. Thats ok if thats what they want, but some who meet these men then take them seriously, I just don't understand their mentality, they must know that men like Hani with their slick charm are well practiced at what they say, sometimes I wonder if there is a book on how to speak to older women, someone is teaching them, surely it cannot be an innate genetical habit! They try it on me too, I say I am old enough to be their mother, they always reply with the same words, 'Age is just a number', 'what is in the heart is all that matter', and some of these women are over 60, they cannot believe them surely? Jan UK.

Egyptian toyboys.

My wife and I spend at least three months in Luxor and Red Sea every year. We have met many women who have had broken hearts over their love affairs with toyboys from these places. It happens to women from all walks of life, Russians, french, germans and Irish, but the most gullible seem to be the English woman over 50. When we first talk to these women who have just met the 'love of their life' we always say don't give them any money, if they are for real they will prove it, if it's for money they will disappear. No amount of talk helps they do give and soon get taken for a ride, one woman lost her home in England because each time she went to Luxor, he would always have some new reason for needing money, hospital for mother, trouble with police or desperate op for himself, the usual excuses. She keeps in contact with us and we know she sold her house and now lives on social security in a rented house. What we don't understand is what these women see in these men, they are not always good looking and are usually not very educated, it saddens us because we love Egypt and this kind of thing spoils it for us.

Bob from Worcester, UK.

no... iam an egyptian guy i

no... iam an egyptian guy i live in cairo .. in cairo u can find handsome good looking guys and university educated and not too poor and not seeking money

Hi, was Hani/Hany a

Hi, was Hani/Hany a goodlooking guy, aged 23, longish hair, dancer?

Egyptian and Moroccan men.

A friend of mine, Louise, met an egyptian waiter when we stayed in the Sonesta Luxor, He swore undying love etc, she sold her house and built a lovely house on the West Bank for herself and him, withing a week of completion he had moved his whole family in and she was out in the cold, did she learn? no, Now she has met a Moroccan man in Marakesh, again she built a house for him and when she went there in January, he had moved his family in including a wife and two kids, she had to stay in a hotel and is now broke. She isn't stupid, she's a 55 year old headmistress of a well known school. She cannot get her money back from the Egyptian as the land she built on was his fathers, and as for the Moroccan he built the house in his name, she doesnt speak arabic so he told her it was in her name when they did the signing at a lawyers office, she was in fact, signing it all over to him. Maria, Kent, United Kingdom.

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