Warning to female tourists thinking of marrying Egyptians

A word of caution for female tourists visiting Egypt: be careful of the many of the men working in tourist areas in Egypt.

Although the vast majority of Egyptians have a high sense of honor and good conduct, it seems that tourist areas seem to attract a relatively high concentration of people with lax morals, who would exploit tourists in many ways. It can manifest itself as persistent aggressive begging, peddling cheap goods, charging 10X the normal prices for services and goods, and what this article focuses on: exploiting female tourists.

Looking at the bulk of the comments on my notes on compulsory army service in egypt they are mostly from non-Egyptian women who married (or intend to marry) an Egyptian man, and army service has become an obstacle.

So, once you here the word "habibti" (meaning "my love" in Arabic), and before you call him "Habibi", let alone go down the marriage route, read on below for more information.

The exploitation happens in many forms, but is normally centered around one of the following:

Easy and Free Sex

Many tourists come from countries where sex is more freely practiced outside of marriage. Youn g Egyptian men working in tourist areas who
are not married see this as an opportunity, and are met with acceptance from the female tourists.

A source for Money

Many Egyptian men who practice this scam view the "wealthy" tourist as a source of income. They keep asking their "girl friend", "fiance" or "wife" for money for various excuses, just like a professional scammer would play a confidence game on a victim.

An Opporunity for Immigration

Some of those men want to get out of Egypt, and see their marriage as a way to gain residence and citizenship in a Western country. The economy in Egypt has been stagnant for decades, and poverty, lack of opportunity and the high cost of marriage lures some youth to trying these tricks.

Why it works?

There are several factors that work in favor of the Egyptian scammers here.

One factor that helps is that most Egyptian men look desirable to Western women, being of darker complexion than their compatriots. The fact that the foreigners are white blonds work in making the women attractive and desirable for Egyptian men.

Another factor is that the woman is coming to the tourist place to have a good time. It may be a break from stressful work or study, or perhaps a past relationship. This helps blind her to what is happening.

Yet another factor is the cultural differences which also create temporary blindness.

Moreover, those workers being away from their village or city of origin, where they would be observed by their extended family and friends tend to make it easier for them to engage in sexual relationships and scams without being scrutinized by acquaintenaces, and no stigma is attached to these behaviors.

Finally, the scammers have perfected their techniques over the years, and are very skillful at what they do.

Blacklists

Blacklists have emerged on the internet, to warn potential female tourists from known exploiters. These have all the faults of user contributed content on the internet in that they can be innacurate, biased, or even rigged by rivals or pranksters. However, in the absence of any other information, they can be useful, provided they are taken with a good deal of skepticism and research and common sense applied.

Happens everywhere, not only Egypt

Before someone gets the impression that Egypt is a cesspool, and Egyptians are crooks, let me say it is neither.

The problem above is not limited to Egypt by any means. Any country where tourists come in to spend money has its share of exploiters. The above black lists have a Turkish one, and a Tunisian one, and there are lots of stories about French, Italian and Spanish men exploiting women tourists as well.

Of course, there is also the Russian bride fraud targeting well to do men in the West.

So, the problem is universal, although this article focuses on female tourists to Egypt.

Final Thoughts

There are many non-Egyptian women married to Egyptian men happily, so over-generalizing from the cases mentioned, or from workers at tourist resort is wrong. Chances are you will be happy with an Egyptian as a husband if you met him in a more natural settings, e.g. while studying or working, and getting to meet his family as well.

The "artificial" environment in resorts, being on holiday, and surrounded by some scammers lend itself to the disasters described.

So, beware ... 

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Comments

I really do not understand

I really do not understand how you can generalise western woman this way.. Not all of us are loose women. .Oh wait.. .. Look at your hands..(this is if u can see them under all the gold u insists ur husbands must give u upon marraige ) ... not all ur fingers are the same.. Please treat everyone with respect they deserve until you have reason Not to respect them....

And as for inappropriate discussion? what do u regard as inappropriate discussion? I would like to know.. just because a western woman may be a little more open in mind does not in one bit make her loose. Most of us choose our partners very carefully and love them very much and very deeply.. egyption man or no egyption man.. I admire your morals very much and i do not wish to judge ur practices, but dont misjudge ours either pls.I realise we are more open about our sexuality but we are not all wicked wanton sex maniacs. I hope and pray that my egyption friend is real.. He tells me he loves me very much and you make me doubt. What about other women here who may have found an egyption man who tries so hard everyday to convince his western woman that he is real? You create problems in more relationships(and more importantly the ones that are based on real love)than you think my dear and in future should choose ur words more wisely.. I for one, if i got married have told him that i would never grant divorce as its against my religion and would never allow another wife.. Staying with me forever would be quite a large price to pay for a visa if this is what he is after (if he didnt love me).. His only option would be to kill me...

Morals Ha Ha

Who are you to decide what morals are? there are many sickening things carried out in Egypt by people who believe they are moral and yet are cruel and hateful.

Female Genital mutilation first and foremost. Carried out on all Muslim girls in Luxor and many other children in the Upper Egypt area. their clitoris is cut out with the authority of their 'pious' parents when the are 13 years old. how can a parent do such a cruel thing to their own child?

Men beating their wives without the woman having any recourse to go to the police or anyone to assist.

Children groomed to beg on the streets instead of going to school. Dressed in filthy dirty clothes and having to cadge people to give some money which is usually more than the parents earn.

Marriages to people who barely know each other. Marriages there the woman has no clitoris and no sexual enjoyment. Men who will condemn her for knowing anything about sex. Women who marry for gold, an apartment and a mans salary to keep them. Prostitution by another name. Get real woman, you are the fool here if you think your 'oh so clever attitude is the correct one'. The women your condemn, at least they want love and happiness whereas people like you are looking for a free lunch for the rest of your life.

I am rather upset that this

I am rather upset that this Muslim woman thinks all western women have low morals while Muslim women have high morals. I have found to my cost that Muslim married women in particular have loose morals. Yes before they are married they need to be virgins but once they are married they seem to be fair game and enjoy the company of others' husbands. I on the other hand took my marriage vows seriously and remained faithful! Yes I know both were to blame but she like many Muslim women said it was ok because I wasn't a Muslim and because it was what happened in my culture! Even their husbands turn a blind eye to it because of course as a Muslim they couldn't possibly do this.

My message is that no matter who you are you do not deserve to be used and hurt in this way!

You think your so good

You think your so good because you wear a head scarf? thats the only difference between muslim women and western women. Muslim women take it up the ass because their terrifed daddy will murder them,if they dont bleed on their wedding night.We take it vaginally so whats the difference which hole we take it in,stop trying to be racially segreating.muslim women are the reason the arab men come to the west to take a break from you,and if your husbands love you so much why do they marry 4 women.dont spin the BS about its due to illness and age its due to power and you women need to realise it,we have a voice in the west and are free, muslim women are just jealous they cant do the same.

Warning to female tourists thinking of marrying Egyptians

im a english revert to islam i did not become muslim for a man i found out about islam on the internet straight away i believed. I think thats your comments are harsh talkin about western woman like that and y u only say about white sure others go there who show there bodies. As i used to dress like this and now i cover who are we to judge. Maybe one day they will cover come to islam that just showin islam in a bad way . Lest egyptian men know about Gods word . Not just oneside to blame to be honest .

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I am the sad heroine of the story "Warning to female tourists thinking of marrying Egyptians" that looks like your story, Patricia. Mine is more ample than what been here revealed, and ended by selling my house to "rescue" him by of the military court and jail, to save their children, etc., and "help" him like this with over 15,000 euros; while I did ​​a trip to Cairo and I lived in http://showmystreet.com/hwiu6_inbh1_j 2 months, still helping him with my last money, I never realized the deceit than when, broke and even to 105 kg baggage left to him, I came back home to my country and he "disappeared", sending me "news" by his friend Ahmed Karam Ahmad Kamel, that Secret/Intelligence Service "found" and punished him by imprisonment cause of the relationship with me; and it followed the overthrow of the regime, the revolution, etc.; captain or major Hazem Hussen Mohamad HUSSEN,living in 14 El-Tawfik City/Al-Taiaram (Nasr City) closer Majed, married, with 2 children, Jana and Yassin, criminologist/ humicide Army investigator in the Egyptian Army from Cairo, close the Military Academy; this investigator man changed his old car with a new one at 2 weeks after my return home, this time working with new naive women victims by Nordic countries, richer, happier and comforted now with my and my child money, who has built enrich by lying, cheating, and maybe he may already advanced according to the captain major; so, do not judge, people, better not trust, not be mercy in invented stories with sick children and dishonest Egyptian Army who was ready to destroy the future of somebody and to let the children away...do not transform into the savior of somebody like me, to loose almost everything, but especial the trust in other people; I am Daniela and I can be found at carmine.relinquo@yahoo.com. And, yes, I have proves for all I have evidences for all acusations on this Army officer

pricks

i have just come back from luxor egypt i dont no what all the fuss is about egyptian men i think they are all ugly pricks and the woma are ugly to

Fady the Lawyer.

I know him and I also know her, she is a good person and doesn;t deserve the way he treated her. When I first saw him, I felt a sense of evil, I did try in a gentle way to tell her to beware of him, but he took her to Cairo to meet his family and that convinced her he was of good intention. I hope he never finds any peace, and I agree with the other person who said he should pay her back. Janet.

question

Hello, Janet, just let me know more at carmine.relinquo@yahoo.com, please, if you know me. Thanks

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