A word of caution for female tourists visiting Egypt: be careful of the many of the men working in tourist areas in Egypt.
Although the vast majority of Egyptians have a high sense of honor and good conduct, it seems that tourist areas seem to attract a relatively high concentration of people with lax morals, who would exploit tourists in many ways. It can manifest itself as persistent aggressive begging, peddling cheap goods, charging 10X the normal prices for services and goods, and what this article focuses on: exploiting female tourists.
Looking at the bulk of the comments on my notes on compulsory army service in egypt they are mostly from non-Egyptian women who married (or intend to marry) an Egyptian man, and army service has become an obstacle.
So, once you here the word "habibti" (meaning "my love" in Arabic), and before you call him "Habibi", let alone go down the marriage route, read on below for more information.
The exploitation happens in many forms, but is normally centered around one of the following:
Easy and Free Sex
Many tourists come from countries where sex is more freely practiced outside of marriage. Youn g Egyptian men working in tourist areas who
are not married see this as an opportunity, and are met with acceptance from the female tourists.
A source for Money
Many Egyptian men who practice this scam view the "wealthy" tourist as a source of income. They keep asking their "girl friend", "fiance" or "wife" for money for various excuses, just like a professional scammer would play a confidence game on a victim.
An Opporunity for Immigration
Some of those men want to get out of Egypt, and see their marriage as a way to gain residence and citizenship in a Western country. The economy in Egypt has been stagnant for decades, and poverty, lack of opportunity and the high cost of marriage lures some youth to trying these tricks.
Why it works?
There are several factors that work in favor of the Egyptian scammers here.
One factor that helps is that most Egyptian men look desirable to Western women, being of darker complexion than their compatriots. The fact that the foreigners are white blonds work in making the women attractive and desirable for Egyptian men.
Another factor is that the woman is coming to the tourist place to have a good time. It may be a break from stressful work or study, or perhaps a past relationship. This helps blind her to what is happening.
Yet another factor is the cultural differences which also create temporary blindness.
Moreover, those workers being away from their village or city of origin, where they would be observed by their extended family and friends tend to make it easier for them to engage in sexual relationships and scams without being scrutinized by acquaintenaces, and no stigma is attached to these behaviors.
Finally, the scammers have perfected their techniques over the years, and are very skillful at what they do.
Blacklists have emerged on the internet, to warn potential female tourists from known exploiters. These have all the faults of user contributed content on the internet in that they can be innacurate, biased, or even rigged by rivals or pranksters. However, in the absence of any other information, they can be useful, provided they are taken with a good deal of skepticism and research and common sense applied.
- An overview article on what a "black list" is, at Arabia.pl.
- Dezy House: Blacklist for Hurghada, in English.
- Dezy House: Blacklist for Sharm El Sheikh, in English.
- Wanted List of Egypt.
- Egyptian Blacklist on Topix.
- KunstKamera blacklist.
Happens everywhere, not only Egypt
Before someone gets the impression that Egypt is a cesspool, and Egyptians are crooks, let me say it is neither.
The problem above is not limited to Egypt by any means. Any country where tourists come in to spend money has its share of exploiters. The above black lists have a Turkish one, and a Tunisian one, and there are lots of stories about French, Italian and Spanish men exploiting women tourists as well.
Of course, there is also the Russian bride fraud targeting well to do men in the West.
So, the problem is universal, although this article focuses on female tourists to Egypt.
There are many non-Egyptian women married to Egyptian men happily, so over-generalizing from the cases mentioned, or from workers at tourist resort is wrong. Chances are you will be happy with an Egyptian as a husband if you met him in a more natural settings, e.g. while studying or working, and getting to meet his family as well.
The "artificial" environment in resorts, being on holiday, and surrounded by some scammers lend itself to the disasters described.
So, beware ...
- Marwa Rakha: Relationship Warning: Do not get involved with Egyptian Men (also here).
- Global Voices: "Beware of Egyptian Men" says Canadian Embassy, also by Marwa Rakha.
- Trailing Grouse: Egyptian men marrying women for money.
- Yahoo Answers: Egyptian Men marrying foreign women to get out from Egypt.
- Sex, Sun, Stupidity and Gigolos.
- Amy Robson: n English girl who keeps falling in false love with Egyptian men (she finally returned to Britain).
- Someone searching on KunstKamera: for Honest Egyptian Boys?
- List if sites on Romance Fraud in German, and other languages.
- A movie documentary in the making on holiday romance, specially Hurghada.
- Female Sex Tourism on Wikipedia, has lots of links to extensive articles. While Turkey is listed as a major destination, Egypt, Tunisia, and Morocco are listed as "minor destinations".
- An article from a Canadian perspective: Sex tourism in full boom. Jamaica, Barbados, Dominican Republic and the Caribbean are the major destination for Canadian women.
Anonymous (not verified)
They are liars..not politeSun, 2015/08/09 - 11:22
They are liars..not polite not like this not like that..they are just lying they are good at it its their expertise..i had a boyfriend egyptian of course.he was ok until he had me.ive never been taken for granted like this before. He never get me even a torn of a rose.i never asked him as i am so inlove with him..an engineer by profession.handsome and has nice beared..my weakness. I then discovered that he is engage and will be married aftr two years.he just use me as sex machine so he can be a better lover to his egyptian cousin fiance wife to be.
Never believe them they are corrupt..they will do alll the necessary lies to get you..
Vika (not verified)
Could you tell me how itMon, 2019/12/09 - 06:44
Could you tell me how it ended with your Egyptian boyfriend?
Heather (not verified)
I agree with youTue, 2013/04/30 - 16:46
I agree with you totally....Most Egyptian men are more laid back and have great moral standards...I married my Egyptian husband 2 years ago and have known him since 2008. He treats me like a Queen and is amazing to my children...
wanda singer (not verified)
is it really a mistake marrying an egyptian?Tue, 2018/09/25 - 02:12
im very confused now,i feel like not trusting any man now,and that is sad now,i cant get into fake love
It is a mistake or not ...Tue, 2018/09/25 - 10:12
It is a mistake to marry an Egyptian. It is not a mistake to marry an Egyptian.
Contradictory? Yes. Because the right answer is : it depends ...
It depends on whether the Egyptian in question works in a tourist area, and declared undying love the minute he met you, and kept at it after your vacation is over using social media.
This type is the typical scammer, and is just after money, first his mom will need surgery, then it is money for army service, then buying an apartment together, then something else until you finally realize that you have been scammed.
On the other hand, a well educated Egyptian in a big city with a better job, or an Egyptian already residing abroad studying or working, is totally the opposite, and is as good as they come ...
Geennaam (not verified)
I was married to an EgyptianSun, 2023/04/23 - 10:22
I was married to an Egyptian for 46 years until he passed away. He was a doctor and certainly not looking for some "fun" and trying to scam me. We met and lived in the United States, I was originally from Europe.
natalie Dellamano (not verified)
??? I've never heard a "womanThu, 2010/09/09 - 10:38
??? I've never heard a "woman of the west" refer to anyone of darker skin in this way. What a horrible thing to say. I personally think that darker skin is beautiful and I'm very attracted to it. And I know many of my friends are the same.
NonRacistYoungFemale (not verified)
Response to disgusting commentSun, 2011/02/20 - 07:47
I don't know if the base individual who wrote of people with darker skin in a derogatory manner will ever read this reply, however I must write it. Firstly, you are one, one of many, so don't assume you present the dominant view of all Western women. Secondly, you should be ashamed of yourself and perhaps come to the realisation that it is people such as yourself; derogatory, prejudicial and racist people, who create all the toxic rubbish in the world. You should be ashamed of yourself, to have the audacity to write such a thing is just a display of how truly backward and unhappy you must be. RACE IS PURELY A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT, that means it is a false reality. There are beautiful and ugly men everywhere. I believe the only person who should be labelled with the term you used, is yourself. Absolute disgusting scum.
Anonymous (not verified)
Very well said!! I couldn'tMon, 2014/11/17 - 22:00
Very well said!! I couldn't agree more x
Lara Leloo (not verified)
Bogey AlexSun, 2011/10/02 - 06:27
sono stata vittima di una brutta storia, ma fino ad oggi avevo deciso di non pubblicarla, ma negli ultimi giorni sono venuta a conoscenza che l'uomo che ha fatto del male a me lo sta facendo anche ad altre donne, perchiò ho deciso di denunciarlo. 2 anni fa sono stata in egitto ed ho conosciuto un ragazzo sembrava timido, educato e molto riservato. Anche l'approccio che ha avuto con me è stato molto discreto, mi ha raccontato di essere stato sposato in passato con una tedesca che era pazza. MI ha raccontato che quando mi ha conosciuto era da 1 anno che non aveva relazioni. Mi ha sposata con un regolare contratto di matrimonio (non orfi) ma mi ha detto che non potevamo vivere insieme perchè aveva problemi con la mamma malata.
Mi ha detto che non poteva vivere con me in italia perchè non aveva fatto il militare. Nell'anno in cui siamo stati sposati mi ha chiesto molti regali e qualche volta soldi ma sempre cose non vistose o esagerate, perciò non ho mai avuto problemi a regalargliele sembrava una richiesta innocente. Sono venuta a sapere che mentre era sposato con me, aveva anche altre 2 mogli europee e relazioni temporanee con altre turiste. A tutte aveva raccontato che le altre erano pazze e che non c'era niente di vero, ma da un controllo che ho fatto presso le autorità egiziane ho trovato che era stato denunciato molte volte e che gli altri matrimoni erano veri.
L'ho lasciato all'istante ma mi ha portato via (oltre alla fiducia nel prossimo) 2000 euro, 1 notebook e molti vestiti firmati.
Ho deciso di segnalarlo non con il suo vero nome, SOLAMENTE PERCHE' E' VIETATO, ma sul suo profilo Facebook si chiama BOGEY ALEX, è del Cairo e lavora per la red sea accademy.