A word of caution for female tourists visiting Egypt: be careful of the many of the men working in tourist areas in Egypt.
Although the vast majority of Egyptians have a high sense of honor and good conduct, it seems that tourist areas seem to attract a relatively high concentration of people with lax morals, who would exploit tourists in many ways. It can manifest itself as persistent aggressive begging, peddling cheap goods, charging 10X the normal prices for services and goods, and what this article focuses on: exploiting female tourists.
Looking at the bulk of the comments on my notes on compulsory army service in egypt they are mostly from non-Egyptian women who married (or intend to marry) an Egyptian man, and army service has become an obstacle.
So, once you here the word "habibti" (meaning "my love" in Arabic), and before you call him "Habibi", let alone go down the marriage route, read on below for more information.
The exploitation happens in many forms, but is normally centered around one of the following:
Easy and Free Sex
Many tourists come from countries where sex is more freely practiced outside of marriage. Youn g Egyptian men working in tourist areas who
are not married see this as an opportunity, and are met with acceptance from the female tourists.
A source for Money
Many Egyptian men who practice this scam view the "wealthy" tourist as a source of income. They keep asking their "girl friend", "fiance" or "wife" for money for various excuses, just like a professional scammer would play a confidence game on a victim.
An Opporunity for Immigration
Some of those men want to get out of Egypt, and see their marriage as a way to gain residence and citizenship in a Western country. The economy in Egypt has been stagnant for decades, and poverty, lack of opportunity and the high cost of marriage lures some youth to trying these tricks.
Why it works?
There are several factors that work in favor of the Egyptian scammers here.
One factor that helps is that most Egyptian men look desirable to Western women, being of darker complexion than their compatriots. The fact that the foreigners are white blonds work in making the women attractive and desirable for Egyptian men.
Another factor is that the woman is coming to the tourist place to have a good time. It may be a break from stressful work or study, or perhaps a past relationship. This helps blind her to what is happening.
Yet another factor is the cultural differences which also create temporary blindness.
Moreover, those workers being away from their village or city of origin, where they would be observed by their extended family and friends tend to make it easier for them to engage in sexual relationships and scams without being scrutinized by acquaintenaces, and no stigma is attached to these behaviors.
Finally, the scammers have perfected their techniques over the years, and are very skillful at what they do.
Blacklists have emerged on the internet, to warn potential female tourists from known exploiters. These have all the faults of user contributed content on the internet in that they can be innacurate, biased, or even rigged by rivals or pranksters. However, in the absence of any other information, they can be useful, provided they are taken with a good deal of skepticism and research and common sense applied.
- An overview article on what a "black list" is, at Arabia.pl.
- Dezy House: Blacklist for Hurghada, in English.
- Dezy House: Blacklist for Sharm El Sheikh, in English.
- Wanted List of Egypt.
- Egyptian Blacklist on Topix.
- KunstKamera blacklist.
Happens everywhere, not only Egypt
Before someone gets the impression that Egypt is a cesspool, and Egyptians are crooks, let me say it is neither.
The problem above is not limited to Egypt by any means. Any country where tourists come in to spend money has its share of exploiters. The above black lists have a Turkish one, and a Tunisian one, and there are lots of stories about French, Italian and Spanish men exploiting women tourists as well.
Of course, there is also the Russian bride fraud targeting well to do men in the West.
So, the problem is universal, although this article focuses on female tourists to Egypt.
There are many non-Egyptian women married to Egyptian men happily, so over-generalizing from the cases mentioned, or from workers at tourist resort is wrong. Chances are you will be happy with an Egyptian as a husband if you met him in a more natural settings, e.g. while studying or working, and getting to meet his family as well.
The "artificial" environment in resorts, being on holiday, and surrounded by some scammers lend itself to the disasters described.
So, beware ...
- Marwa Rakha: Relationship Warning: Do not get involved with Egyptian Men (also here).
- Global Voices: "Beware of Egyptian Men" says Canadian Embassy, also by Marwa Rakha.
- Trailing Grouse: Egyptian men marrying women for money.
- Yahoo Answers: Egyptian Men marrying foreign women to get out from Egypt.
- Sex, Sun, Stupidity and Gigolos.
- Amy Robson: n English girl who keeps falling in false love with Egyptian men (she finally returned to Britain).
- Someone searching on KunstKamera: for Honest Egyptian Boys?
- List if sites on Romance Fraud in German, and other languages.
- A movie documentary in the making on holiday romance, specially Hurghada.
- Female Sex Tourism on Wikipedia, has lots of links to extensive articles. While Turkey is listed as a major destination, Egypt, Tunisia, and Morocco are listed as "minor destinations".
- An article from a Canadian perspective: Sex tourism in full boom. Jamaica, Barbados, Dominican Republic and the Caribbean are the major destination for Canadian women.
Desert Rose (not verified)
Hunting Foreign Women For Income/Easy MoneySat, 2012/01/28 - 05:12
I was only married 1 year and 3 months when my lovely Egyptian Man said " Sign a paper that gives me half of your property, or Ill KILL YOU!!!" I realized I didnt know this guy at all...the first year we were happy but It is true, I paid for all. when i tried to get him to work, we started getting bad with me...the police dont help...in the end they try to scare me to leave my property so they can take it as no one will dispute the issue. See my blog...MY Arabian Days and Nights....for helpful info. Best thing I can advise is to get a signed document from ANY man you think to marry that says He will be responsible to pay for ALL regular living needs and that he has no right to any of your property, now or in the future, even if you die. and keep THAT with a friend or lawyer. My hubby/love stole all my documents, gold and tried to steal my truck....ALWAYS get papers from a lawyer and keep copies everywhere!!!!!!!! Hebajoan at gmail
I Live in an Oasis in the Western Desert of Egypt and it is true, all the guys working in Tourism/Safari want out of Egypt and who can blame them...but to USE a woman and then steal her..this is not ARAB, EGYPTIAN or something any REAL MAN would do....RULE #1 NEVER give a man MONEY!
See my Google Blog, My Arabian Days and Nights.
Anonymousxtu (not verified)
Well, there's always going toSun, 2008/11/30 - 16:35
Well, there's always going to be the exception, but if you look at these places, you'll notice the women are double or triple the age of the boys they are chasing. Miscegenation is not the norm. I think it accounts for only 5% of all unions in North America, and most of them are between 2 different groups of non-Whites. You can just imagine how the typical westerner would view some old western women (or man) chasing after poor foreign black boys (or girls) young enough to be their grandsons/granddaughters. Just imagine if these women (or men) actually tried that in a western country!
Age is only the partial problemSun, 2008/11/30 - 17:17
There are certainly cases where older women go to these resorts to have sex in exchange for money, since they are no longer desirable. Some of those men also "justify" their actions (getting money, getting
immigration) by the fact that they are providing a "service" for these
But there are also many cases where women in their 20s and 30s have had these relationships, and even have children.
So "old undersirable and sex hungry" women explains some of that phenomenon, but not all of it.
Just read the links.
Mary (not verified)
age is only the partial problemWed, 2010/11/17 - 00:19
White women with very low self steem are the ones that married ''dark'' unattractive me, they are desperate to show that they got married to ''someone''and that they had a child.
Anonymousxtu (not verified)
"Just read the links" Yes,Sun, 2008/11/30 - 18:31
"Just read the links"
Yes, read them, you'll see some commonalities. I already stated theres always the exception, but the rule states that there is something wrong. The "old hag" phenomenon, to the mentally disturbed like the Robson story, to the Western-Egyptian girl whose family wants to find an "acceptable" boy for her from back home.
Patricia (not verified)
nother con man.Wed, 2009/01/07 - 11:35
I married in Egypt a so called educated lawyer called Fady Sawiris, he conned me out of £20.000.00. We opened a shop in his name of course, the first two months he did well, then got tired of working in the shop so put an inexperienced woman in charge, she tried to over charge for everything, and of course the shop went bust. Fady would say he needed an operation, but it cost too much, when he had the deposit for the shop, he told me he had been arrested for beating a man up and he needed to pay 6000 le or go to prison, I found out it was all lies, he just spent the money on himself. I believe he is now working in Sharm, so ladies be warned, he is a so called christian, but wasn't very christian when he took all my money, and I am a poor widow still trying to pay the bank back, he doesn't care.
And yes I know it was my fault, but I trusted him, Patricia.
Anonymous (not verified)
Fady SawirisFri, 2009/01/09 - 19:26
I know this man, he comes from a good family in Cairo, he has four brothers and one sister, all educated, Fady must be the black sheep of the family, he is only interested in money or a visa, it would never occur to him to work and save enough money to try and get to UK himself, he wants the easy way out, through a gullible woman who is loney. His brother is a well known journalist in Helsinki. I know the woman he married she is the kindest person I ever met in Luxor, she was well off, but now almost destitute, and not only a widow but disabled as well. How can a man who brags he is a lawyer stoop so low, he was a military lawyer, but other friends have told me he isn't a good lawyer, I suppose this is why he was working in a shop. I believe that what goes round comes round, one day he will be paid back, unless he pays his ex wife what he owes her.
Moheb (not verified)
Fady sawirisSat, 2009/01/10 - 12:03
I now the man fady, he con many women, he always tel them he is virgin but he sleep with meny before, he pretens to be coptic cristian but in truth he is catholic. when he finished with womens he tell her his mother makes him marry good egypt girl, but he wont never get good girl, he too old now, he must be 40 or more, he used to work for Sofital in shop in Luxor but now maybe he is in Sharm. If any womens meet him bewary of him. His ex wife should get police to arresting him, he needs time in jail.
Linda (not verified)
I met fady in Sharm, heSat, 2009/12/26 - 13:43
I met fady in Sharm, he pretends to be so sweet and inocent,told me he never had a woman as it not allowed in Egypt, yeh right! my friend Karen met him in Luxor, he kept saying how poor he is, and he comes from a poor family, she was told by someone there that his family is not poor, but quite well off. You cannot blame the really poor egyptians from the west bank trying it on, but he is something else. We both rejected him he is old and bald, but he thinks he is a cut above the upper egyptians because he comes from Cairo. Linda Bell. Scotland.
Anonymous (not verified)
u should have had a betterWed, 2009/04/08 - 18:45
u should have had a better and more spoken words with your other half.......
i have been married for three years now......i am 50 now........my beautiful husband is 35......., but the differenece is ...i made my life for understanding islam...and i am a christian.........u cannot go to a culture ...where 90% is muslim......u have to understand the culture and all the fanily values........
if u can't do this then it is your own fault.........men have to be 1st...well for there family anyway, but if u have a understanding of your standing......it will always work out....after all they are only human,,just brought up in a totally different way.
i can say from my heart.......his family are just fantastic.....i have so much love given to me........and the thing that is so stupid.......i am actually 2 years older than his mum,,but i am now classed as one of the family...and loved so much, so much. i would not change anything......we have the most fantastic flat....so big....and a business transporting sand to the suez canel for export........and we great times away by the red sea.........by the way we live in saned baset, zifta. in the middle of the delta. life has stood still, there, so lovely...MY ADVISE.....DO NOT DO ANYTHING BEFORE U R SO SURE THAT THE MAN U HAVE IS TRUE.....OTHERWISE ....YES....ITS YOUR OWN FAULT......AND DON'T FORGET...EYGPTIANS CAN MARRY THREE TIMES??????????????BEWARE